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Fenugreek for supply issues

by Jackie

I have 2/3 of a bottle of fenugreek supplements in my bathroom closet leftover from when Sam was a baby and my milk was slow to come in. In retrospect, I had no idea of what I was doing and just took the 1 to 2 recommended dosage on the bottle instead of the 6 or more recommended on kellymom. I’ve seen several questions about fenugreek on the baby message board I frequent and saw this interesting post by a woman from India.

I’m from India, and we use fenugreek as a standard ingredient in our diet. I’ve seen a lot of questions and some strange opinions and information about fenugreek supplements on this board, so I thought I’d write a post about what I know.

FYI, I had a pretty low supply of breast milk (my SS did not latch on AT ALL for 2 weeks, which pretty much killed my initial supply), but I have managed to correct by taking fenugreek seeds.

Fenugreek is very easily available in ethnic food stores that sell Indian or Pakistani foods. The native name for fenugreek is “METHI” (pronounced MAY-thi), so that may be what it says on the pack of seeds or box of dried leaves. It costs about $3 for more than a month’s supply of seeds in upstate NY.

I soak one tsp of fenugreek seeds in abut 2 tbsps of water for a few hours, and then swallow the whole thing with a full glass of water (it’s important to swallow the water the seeds have been soaking in also). I do this three times a day. Every time I swallow one batch of seeds, I soak the next batch to be swallowed later.

Fenugreek leaves are also pretty good, but not as effective as the seeds. Both fresh and dried leaves have produced similar results for me, I don’t think there is a difference. Fresh leaves don’t need to be cooked (though it’s fine if you do cook them), but the dried ones definitely do. Fenugreek leaves are a great flavoring agent - very aromatic, a “good” sort of bitter taste - and can be added to pretty much anything. Use about one tablespoon of dried leaves or three tablespoons of minced fresh leaves per serving, or you can use more for a stronger flavor. Add it to salads, pasta, rice, ground beef, veggies… it’s very versatile.

There is no way to take an overdose of fenugreek, unless you truly gorge on it, I suppose, eating 3-4 cups of seeds in a day, or perhaps eating 2-3 quarts of fresh leaves in a day. I cannot stress this enough: THERE IS NO WAY YOU CAN TAKE AN OVERDOSE. I’ve seen my milk supply increase when I take 4 or 5 teaspoons a day instead of 3. I would not advise you to take TOO much, because constant engorgement might cause mastitis, and that’s more trouble than the extra milk is worth. But if you weren’t nursing, there would be no danger in eating lots of fenugreek, a lot more than what’s in your typical supplement.

Side effects vary depending on people. In India, swallowing a teaspoon of the unsoaked seeds with a glass of buttermilk is a traditional remedy for diarrhoea… most people are careful not to eat more than 1-2 cups of fenugreek seeds in a day (we use it in curries) because it causes constipation. But I’ve seen fenugreek supplement bottles warn that the supplements may CAUSE diarrhoea. I myself seem to be pretty immune to both diarrhoea and constipation, so I don’t have any ill effects at all from the fenugreek. I guess how you react to fenugreek depends on your individual body chemistry and the rest of your diet.

Fenugreek is immensely beneficial to your body and for your baby, too. It’s a “cooling” food, so if you’ve noticed yours or your LO’s head or body always feeling warm (not like a fever, but generally radiating heat even while perspiring etc) your body will be “cooled down” by the fenugreek. It’s summer now, and almost all of us are susceptable to getting overheated, so believe me, fenugreek can help!

In fact, if it’s a particularly hot day and you’ve spent too much time out in the sun, try applying about a cup of soaked, ground fenugreek seeds to your head. It’s incredibly cooling, you’ll notice it immediately. Simply rinse it off with water after 3-4 hours, or when it dries, whichever is later. Fenugreek is a great hair conditioner, too, you’ll notice your hair feeling very soft after this treatment. WARNING: DO NOT DO THIS FOR YOUR LO. Babies get *so* cooled down by the fenugreek-on-the-head treatment that they get nasal congestion and colds from it. If you must, use only a tablespoon instead of a whole cup, and wash it off after an hour instead of waiting for it to dry.

Hope this helps!

I thought this information was fascinating and answered a lot of questions. It’s also good to know that fenugreek doesn’t have to be cost prohibitive. One more note: I haven’t researched any of this information, I am just cutting and pasting with permission of the author. So if you’re having supply issues do your research and talk to a lactation consultant or doctor before taking any supplements.

Massachusetts moms, please act now!

by Jackie

Breastfeeding_icon_med.jpgMassachusetts moms, please act now!

I’m a resident of Massachusetts, one of only three states that provides no legal protection for nursing in public. There is some hope of that finally changing this year, but we need to act quickly. Here’s a notice put out by the Massachusetts Breastfeeding Coalition:

Massachusetts is one of only three states without any laws to protect a mother’s right to breastfeed in public. Senator Fargo’s proposed bill 2438 is currently stuck in the House Ways and Means Committee and unless we can convince the Speaker of the House to move it out of committee immediately our chance of passing the bill this year. Deadline is the end of July.

Speaker of the House
Salvatore F. Dimasi
State House
Room 356
State House
Boston MA 02133

On the back of the photo write “Another family for Senate Bill 2438! Please send it to the floor for a vote!

That’s it! Any cute baby photo will do, whether it was taken two days ago or twenty years ago, and no, they don’t have to be breastfeeding in the photo. In fact, we’d rather they weren’t. If you do send a photo of your baby breastfeeding please make it discreet. We want to flood these offices with pictures of cute babies, not breasts!

For those of you with the time and energy you get extra credit if you also send a photo/request to:

Chairman of the House Ways & Means Committee
Rep. Robert DeLeo
Room 243
State House
Boston, MA 02133

You may also email email Rep. DiMasi, Rep. DeLeo, or your own representative an embedded photo, but not an attachment. Keep the photo size small.

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Normalize it

by Jackie

The ideal is that breastfeeding becomes the norm, not something that requires legislation. My hope is that some day breastfeeding is something that women just do, not something they feel embarrassed about, debate about on message boards, call others nazis over, or think is gross. Breastfeeding is how babies should be fed. Other food sources should be used if breastfeeding isn’t possible, but breastfeeding should be the universally accepted way to feed a child.

Halton, a Canadian city, is helping to make that happen.

Halton opens arms to breastfeeding moms

Carmelina Prete
THE HAMILTON SPECTATOR
(Jun 25, 2008)

Breastfeeding_icon_med.jpgHalton has just become more welcoming to breastfeeding moms.

Breastfeeding Welcome Here is a new community program that encourages any business in the region to post signs saying it is a breastfeeding-friendly location — and be listed in a new website, babyfriendlyhalton.ca.

The campaign, which will have an official launch within six months, is more sweeping than a similar program announced yesterday by Toronto’s public health department.

Toronto’s program involves only restaurants, whereas Halton’s invites all businesses to join — from doctor’s offices to book stores, restaurants and coffee shops.

“Our mission in Halton is to make breastfeeding the norm,” said Eileen Chuey, a Halton public health nurse and co-ordinator of Halton Baby Friendly Initiative, a community coalition of health care providers, agencies and community members who work to promote and support breastfeeding.

“A lot of moms do feel comfortable breastfeeding wherever but it’s amazing how many mothers really need to almost have that permission.”

Hamilton has no immediate plans to launch a similar program.

Making a scene

by Jackie

The news story about the woman causing the scene in the courthouse got me thinking. Breastfeeding is normal and natural and there is nothing sexual about it. I don’t understand the segment of the population who feels that it’s something that should only be done in private. Babies need to eat and mothers need to leave the house. When my 6 week old is hungry I feed him. (When my 2 year old demands “mommy’s milk” which I know he actually doesn’t want I ignore him. ) But it’s not something I want to make a scene over.

Even if he actually wanted to nurse properly instead of just playing with the clasp on my nursing bra I wouldn’t let my 2 year-old nurse in public simply because he doesn’t need my milk for nourishment; he could just as easily have a drink of water and a sandwich if he was hungry. Letting him nurse in public would be more about proving a point than anything else. If Sam really needed or wanted to nurse I’d find a more private, discreet place to let him rather than whipping it out in the middle of Target like I would with Ben. It’s not because I think there’s something wrong with nursing a toddler, it’s because I know my son and I know he can wait. If he was a toddler who still nursed regularly, for comfort and/or a drink, I’d be more apt to let him nurse in public because it would be something that was normal for him. But for a kid who only nursed as a toddler in the early mornings or at bedtime, nursing in broad daylight in a public place would have been weird for both of us.

I’m getting off topic here. What I’m trying to get at, is that since I’ve become a mother, specifically a nursing mother, I’ve been hyper-aware of public breastfeeding since I make it a point to leave my house on a daily basis. The majority of the mothers I know don’t cover up with blankets and don’t leave public areas to feed their babies. But they also don’t make it a point to draw attention to the fact that they are nursing. Some women are such fierce breastfeeding advocates that they feel it’s their job to loudly educate people about their rights and the benefits of breastfeeding every time someone glances at them while they feed their kids. I don’t see how that helps the cause. It’s already protected- why fight about it?

Breastfeeding_icon_med.jpgIf someone stares at me while I’m nursing I ignore him or her. If someone says something about me nursing I ignore him or her. Nursing in public is something that I feel I should be able to do without whispers or stares. So I feed my baby and ignore the rest. I’ve never been directly confronted (only whispered about), but if someone were to confront me I’d calmly and quietly tell them that the state of Pennsylvania allows me to feed my child in any public or private place. Getting loud about it and making a scene, getting defensive about it would only make it seem like I’m doing something I should not.

Breastfeeding controversy at a courthouse

by Jackie

I came across this odd story out of Tennessee. My comments after the article, but make sure you watch the video.

Breastfeeding Controversy at Rutherford County Courthouse-Erika Lathon

law.jpgBreastfeeding in public isn’t against the law but a Murfreesboro woman says it nearly got her arrested.

Heather Rankins says she did nothing wrong but Sheriff’s deputies say she became loud and disrupted court.

Rankins was breastfeeding her 4 month old son Payne Monday morning at the Rutherford County Courthouse.

She says initially a female deputy asked her to move to a private area and when she refused, the situation escalated with a male deputy.

Rankins said, “He said one of two things will happen, either you’re going to leave or I’m going to take you to jail and DCS will have your child picked up. I said you can’t do that and he said yes I can.”

In a written statement, the Sheriff’s Department says Rankins was warned she could be arrested for disorderly conduct and disrupting a courtroom.

The Sheriff’s Department acknowledges in the statement that breastfeeding is legal in Tennessee, but if there are complaints, they ask women to cover up or move to a private area.

In this case, they point out that despite being disruptive, Rankins was allowed to leave on her own without being arrested.

Ordinarily I feel it’s my job to side with the mother, but after watching this video I can’t help but think Rankins was out to make a scene. I don’t know what precipitated the complaints that caused the deputy to ask her to move, but I’m sure that once she was asked to cover up she did get loud and she did disrupt court, even from outside of the courtroom. Breastfeeding in public is protected in Tennessee, a point that could have been made without yelling. A simple reminder of the law should suffice when confronted.

Month two

by Jackie

After 5 long, painful weeks Sam finally seems to have adjusted to his baby brother. The last few days he’s been an absolute pleasure again and we’re enjoying our sweet boy again. All of his unsavory behaviors have slowed if not stopped entirely. I no longer fear for Ben’s safety when Sam comes over to give him a kiss.

Breastfeeding has become almost easy. The excruciating pain of Ben latching on stopped sometime after the mastitis got better. I still produce a great deal of milk; when I pump, which is rare, I’m able to pump 4 or 5 ounces in about 10 minutes using my Medela Harmony manual pump. But I’m no longer painfully engorged all of the time. When Ben’s nursing on one side I still leak like crazy on the other, but it’s nothing like it was just a few weeks ago.

Ben doesn’t seem to mind taking bottles. He’s had a few with no ill effects and doesn’t seem to care that the milk’s not coming directly from the source. He also seems to like a pacifier. I don’t really give it to him, but Bob does when I’m not around and it does the trick.

Poop, one of those things parents (especially mothers) find themselves talking about entirely too often, is something else I should mention. After pooping a dozen times a day, Ben’s system has finally slowed down. He’s now pooping in greater volume just once or twice a day. I am thrilled that cloth diapers contain the runny breastmilk poo much better than disposable diapers. When Sam was a baby I had to change his entire outfit just about every time he pooped since it would inevitably shoot all the way up his back to his neck. With cloth we haven’t had a single blowout.

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One month

by Jackie

I tried to post this last wee but the site has been down forever and I couldn’t log in to do it. So here it is now.

My baby is one month old. It’s kind of tough to do a monthly update for a month because at one month not much happens. Babies are still so fetal, and my little one-month-old is no exception. But he’s getting so, so big. He’s grown out of some of his diapers already and moved to a more generous snap setting on the diapers that were so huge just a few weeks before. His face is losing that newborn puffiness and starting to look more like the baby he’s going to become. His hair, while still dark, has lightened considerably from black to brown. His eyes are still a dark navy blue, a blue that makes me wonder what color his eyes will become.

He still spends the majority of the day sleeping, but when he’s awake he spends his time looking around with those dark blue eyes. He’s mostly calm and content and very rarely cries for reasons I can’t figure out immediately. He’s a good sleeper and naps on his own for hours at a time in his crib, the pack n play in my bedroom, or on a mat on the floor. At night he wakes to eat twice between 11 and 6 but generally goes back to sleep immediately after nursing for a few minutes. Last night he pleased me by sleeping for a good six-hour stretch. I am grateful.

He nurses quickly and efficiently and doesn’t spend a lot of time just hanging out on the breast, which I really appreciate. The quick and efficient nursing makes him pretty gassy which leads to spectacular spit ups once or twice a day. It’s astounding how much liquid can spew from a newborn’s mouth without them really noticing or caring. The pooping seems to have slowed down, and while there’s still plenty of poop (one of the downsides of parenting) I no longer have to change three diapers in a 30-minute period because of it.

The poor little guy hasn’t had the best health so far. He’s already had a staph infection, a nasty yeast rash (which the other pediatrician in the office told me was not yeast when I brought him in the first time. Two days later she wrote me the prescription for the yeast cream and it promptly went away), and now he’s got a cough. The same cough his brother and I both have. It’s awful to hear his little body coughing, especially since I know how much it hurts. But it hasn’t seemed to affect his mood and it hasn’t affected his sleep.

He’s really pretty strong. He surprised everyone by lifting his head and looking around immediately after his birth and he’s continued to show off his impressive head control since. When he’s on his belly he pushes up on his arms and looks around. He’s also got strong legs. Sometimes when he sleeps he’ll push himself several inches forward. One day he turned a full 90 degrees. I’ve also seen him turn from his back to his side. He’s so advanced. (doesn’t every parent say that about their kid?)

My little baby is growing up. It’s amazing how easily and how immediately we loved him. I’ll miss the newborn stage when it’s over. I love how soft and cuddly he is and how perfectly he fits under my chin. But I can’t wait to see what he’ll be like as he grows.

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Too much milk

by Jackie

fountain.jpgWhen it comes to milk production I am a champ to the point of embarrassment. Yesterday all of my nursing pads were in the wash. I was at home alone so I figured I’d just hang out and if I leaked a little it was no big deal. I was wrong. Within 20 minutes my entire belly was soaked and I had huge wet circles on my shirt reaching from my breast to my waist.

This extra milk production is probably the cause of my mastitis. Ben eats when he’s hungry and I can’t force him to take any more when he’s not. I haven’t been engorged this past week, but I’ve definitely been full and block nursing is the only way to ensure each breast gets emptied. That means one side is visibly larger than the other and depending on how long he waits between feedings, one side is noticeably lumpier and wetter than the other. I can’t pump for relief since that will just encourage production, so when he nurses on one side I have to make sure I have a burp cloth nearby to catch the drips that sometimes soak through my nursing pads.

Since Ben’s my second child I’m better at anticipating my flow so I’m less likely to squirt milk across the room when he latches. But I still have no way of controlling the flow when he unexpectedly lets go mid-feeding. The poor little guy’s hair is often plastered to his head with breastmilk.

The biggest problem is that the force of the flow laves little Benny gaping for breath and gassy. The kid can burp like a trucker.

Brothers

by Jackie

Now that Benny is almost three weeks old it’s obvious that he’s a completely different baby than Sam was. I know that will come as no surprise to anyone with more than one child, and while I certainly didn’t expect him to be just like Sam, the differences are still surprising.

First of all, they look completely different. Sam, who was bald until recently, is blond and light eyed with skin so pale it makes me wonder how he could have come out of olive-complected me. Ben is darker, with tons of hair, skin like mine, and dark blue eyes that are sure to change color. He’s also bigger, so much bigger than Sam was.

baby.jpgThe next huge difference is that Ben sleeps by himself in a crib. He naps for hours without being in a swing, car seat, sling or stroller. It astounds me that I can have a child who actually sleeps in such conditions. I know that it won’t last forever. Habits change and all babies have sleep regressions, but right now I’m enjoying this while it lasts.

Nursing Ben is completely different from nursing Sam. Sam used to nurse for hours, falling asleep at the breast and crying for more when I tried to remove it from his mouth. He nursed around the clock, waking often to eat long, leisurely meals. The first few months of his life I didn’t have an hour to myself he nursed so often. Ben is a fast eater, taking huge noisy gulps of breastmilk then stopping to look around. He eats every few hours, sometimes taking a 3 or 4 hour nap before meals. It’s almost freeing.

Toddler adjusting to baby

by Jackie

A friend asked via email, “How is Sam doing? Is he adjusting any better?”

The answer:

Not really. He’s a mess. He’s taken to grinding and clicking his teeth, clenching his jaw into an underbite when he plans on hitting or biting, he’s biting his fingernails and toenails, and today he’s sick so everything is magnified. It’s distressing to say the least. I put him to bed every night and get up with him and cuddle every morning in addition to the times while the baby is napping or Bob’s around that I can spend alone with him during the day. So it’s not like he’s not getting alone time with me. He’s also spending plenty of alone time with Bob. He’s fine if we have play dates or things to do, but when we’re home alone he’s a terror.

I’m on the verge of tears just thinking about it and he’s had me in tears just about every day. He’s such a sweet boy, gentle and easy going that most people who know him don’t even believe me. I get these glimpses of him a few times a day, these moments where I recognize him again, which make me feel even worse about his behavior. I feel awful that he’s so distraught by the new addition but I don’t know what I can do to make him feel secure again. I keep bending over backwards to accommodate him, often at poor Ben’s expense.

crop.kiss.jpgSam doesn’t hate Ben. He demands to hold him and brings him toys and says, ‘it’s okay Ben’ when he cries, but then out of nowhere he’ll just hit him or try to squish him or kick him. He also demands to nurse when Ben nurses, and I don’t know what to do except let him. He doesn’t even want to nurse. He just latches on, looks confused and gets off.

Day 10- Mastitis

by Jackie

I’ll skip day 9 because it was relatively uneventful compared to Ben’s 10th day out of the womb. To keep Sam occupied and violence free I scheduled a play date for this morning and a visit from Grandmom (my mother-in-law) this afternoon. All was well until around five o’clock. We were sitting outside and I started to feel a little bit cold. I was a little sore under the armpits. ( For those of you who may not have breastfed yet, the milk glands start under the armpit and milk can collect there making them lumpy and sore.)

thermometet.jpgWhen my MIL left I went inside. I still felt cold so I put on a sweatshirt and looked at the thermometer. It was 70 degrees in the house. Not a good sign. I took my temperature and sure enough I had a low fever. I didn’t put the two things together- sore armpits and a fever- until Bob reminded me that I could have an infection. Sure enough, my left breast was fire engine red and hot to the touch and I started feeling flu-ish.

It was after office hours but my doctor was on call so I had her call in a prescription for antibiotics for me. I was still hoping that I could avoid them since Ben had a little yeast rash in the diaper area and antibiotics can cause yeast problems like thrush, a condition I managed to avoid with Sam, but I wanted to have them if I didn’t get better without.

I put on a heating pad and let Ben nurse on the sore breast for a long time. I block nursed for the night, just one side at a time to make sure everything was well-drained and put heat on the sore side before each nursing session. I took advil to help with the discomfort and swelling and went to bed early waking to nurse regularly, hoping for the best.

Unfortunately I still had a temperature Saturday morning and my breast was still hot and red to the touch. So I started the antibiotics. Bob took Sam out for the day so I was able to rest with Ben most of the day. By Sunday I was feeling better. Yesterday, Monday, I was still sore, but all of the other symptoms had completely subsided.

Mastitis sucks but I’m glad I caught it early.

FDA Warns Consumers Against Using Mommy’s Bliss Nipple Cream

by Jackie

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May 23, 2008

Media Inquiries:
Rita Chappelle, 301-827-6242
Consumer Inquiries:
888-INFO-FDA

FDA Warns Consumers Against Using Mommy’s Bliss Nipple Cream
Product can be harmful to nursing infants

The U.S. Food and Drug Administration is warning consumers not to use or purchase Mommy’s Bliss Nipple Cream, marketed by MOM Enterprises, Inc., because the product contains potentially harmful ingredients that may cause respiratory distress or vomiting and diarrhea in infants. The product is promoted to nursing mothers to help soothe and heal dry or cracked nipples. Product labeling specifically states that there is no need for mothers to remove the cream prior to nursing. However, the ingredients contained in the product may be harmful to nursing infants.

Potentially harmful ingredients in Mommy’s Bliss Nipple Cream are chlorphenesin and phenoxyethanol. Chlorphenesin relaxes skeletal muscle and can depress the central nervous system and cause respiratory depression (slow or shallow breathing) in infants. Phenoxyethanol is a preservative that is primarily used in cosmetics and medications. It also can depress the central nervous system and may cause vomiting and diarrhea, which can lead to dehydration in infants.

Mothers and caregivers should watch for a decrease in an infant’s appetite. More serious signs would be difficulty in awakening the child, limpness of extremities or a decrease in an infant’s strength of grip and a change in skin color. Please seek immediate medical attention if your child is showing these signs and symptoms.

“The FDA is particularly concerned that nursing infants are being unwittingly exposed by their mothers to this product with dangerous side effects,” said Janet Woodcock, M.D., director, FDA’s Center for Drug Evaluation and Research. “Additionally, these two ingredients may interact with one another to further compound and increase the risk of respiratory depression in nursing infants.”

Though the FDA has not received any reports of injury to infants, the agency is alerting the public because of the potential harm this product can have on a child.

Chlorphenesin can also harm the mother by causing dermatitis, a skin condition that can worsen the drying and cracking of nipple skin.

MOM Enterprises, Inc. is based in San Rafael, Calif. The company has stated that it has discontinued marketing the nipple cream with the potentially harmful ingredients. The FDA is advising consumers to discontinue use of Mommy’s Bliss Nipple Cream and to consult a health care professional if they experience problems or believe that their infant may have experienced problems due to this product. Nursing mothers with cracked, painful nipples, which is often a side effect of nursing, should speak with their health care professional or a certified lactation consultant if the problem is severe or for other treatment options.

Consumers are strongly encouraged to report adverse events related to this product or any FDA approved product to MedWatch, the agency’s voluntary reporting program, by e-mail at www.fda.gov/medwatch/report.htm, or by phone at 800-332-1088, or by fax to 800-332-0178. Consumers may also mail reports of adverse events to MedWatch, Food and Drug Administration, 5600 Fishers Lane, Rockville, MD, 20852-9787.

Days 7-8

by Jackie

Day 7

The jealousy is getting worse. Now Sam’s is getting violent towards Ben, hitting him and trying to pull him out of my lap. Today I was in tears after Sam hit me, hit Ben, then tried to push Ben out of the bouncy chair. Ben didn’t notice, but it kills me to see my sweet Sam act so terribly. I know that adjustment issues are common and that it won’t last forever, but I’m afraid of being on my own for a full day with them.

The engorgement is getting better. Ben’s nursing more and sleeping less. It still hurts like hell when he latches on, but it goes away after a minute or two. He’s a fast nurser, gulping down breastmilk quickly then looking around for a while trying to decide if he’s still hungry. It’s amazing how different he is from Sam. Sam used to nurse forever. Most days he’d nurse for about an hour out of every two hours. I know he’s only a week old, but so far Ben couldn’t be more different. He’s done in 10 minutes easily, gasping for breath after drinking so hard.

Day 8

baby.scale.jpgBen’s first doctor’s appointment was this morning. Bob took the day off from work to go with us. When the nurse weighed him we were astonished to see that he’s lost weight after being discharged from the hospital. His discharge weight was 7 lbs 8 oz. His weight a week later was 7 lbs even. But he’d grown a full inch. He nursed for a while after being weighed and measured before the doctor came in.

The pediatrician was concerned about the weight loss and asked a number of questions. She wanted to know if he was nursing 8-10 times in a 24 hour period and if he was gulping while he ate. She asked if my milk had come in. Hoping she’d weigh him again I mentioned that he’d nursed after he was weighed. The doctor’s scale isn’t as sensitive as a lactation consultant’s, but she thought she’d weigh him again just to see. Sure enough, his weight the second time was 7 lbs 11 oz. She weighed him again just to make sure and it was the same. I don’t know what happened the first time. Bob and I were both watching the nurse as he weighed Ben and he didn’t do anything wrong. I was so relieved that he’s gaining weight.

Days 4-6

by Jackie

Day 4

With the milk in, Ben started nursing a little bit more, taking huge gulps followed by a more leisurely pace. The only way I could get him to nurse on both sides was to change his diaper in between feedings. He still wouldn’t nurse much on the second side, but he’d nurse a little before falling asleep again.

He woke up to nurse three times in the night, which is a good sign. He’s sleeping in our room in a bassinet next to the bed. After the first wakeup I tend to fall asleep while he nurses so he generally doesn’t make it back into his own bed. The good news is that we’re both sleeping pretty well. I don’t know how long it will last since this early newborn sleepy stage is fleeting, but I’m enjoying getting my rest while I can.

Day 5

Nothing remarkable today. Ben continues to nurse and sleep with stretches of wide-eyed wakefulness in between. I am still engorged and it hurts.

Day 6

tandem.gifThe inevitable has happened. Sam’s jealousy has kicked in full force and he wants to be on my lap when Ben is and he wants to do what Ben does. If Ben’s in the bouncy chair Sam wants to be in the bouncy chair. If Ben’s in the wrap attached to my chest, Sam wants to be in the wrap attached to me. Twice today Sam asked to nurse because Ben was nursing. Both times I let him and thankfully once he got close he shied away. The second time he tried to latch on and may have suckled for a second, but he seemed confused and stopped pretty quickly. I am still engorged and it still hurts.

Days 2-3

by Jackie

Day 2

Late Wednesday night the baby was named. Thursday, Benjamin’s second full day on the outside, was busy. He was circumcised in the morning and returned to me a few hours later still sleepy from the Tylenol. When he woke up he was hungry and he latched on and nursed like a pro before falling asleep again. The pediatrician on call gave us discharge papers and even though I was worried that he wasn’t eating enough he’d only lost an ounce in the hospital. Since Sam had lost 11 ounces, more than half a pound in those first few days, I was ecstatic that Ben had done so well. Soon after we went home and spent our first afternoon together as a family.

My milk still hadn’t come in and even though I was putting him on the breast regularly Ben wasn’t eating much. His latch, though correct, was starting to become really painful. My nipples were still in tact, with no bruises, blisters or sores, but I’d forgotten how much breastfeeding hurts those first few days.

Day 3

pam.jpgBy Friday evening my milk had officially come in. My breasts had reached epic, porn star proportions and Bob kept asking to look at them again. Ben STILL wasn’t eating enough and the engorgement was painful. My right breast, which has always been slightly bigger than the left, was clearly overachieving in the milk department and started to become hot and red. I panicked, thinking I was getting mastitis already, but after Ben nursed on that side for a good five minutes the redness faded and all was well.

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Parenting & Family Channel Posts

  • Flip Mino
    If it is one thing you don't need when you have kids is more "things". You carry around a diaper bag, juice boxes, changes of clothes, a camera and for special occasions you bring out the [...]
  • Why are you crying?
    He brings an energy to this house. Sometimes is feels like the house is going to vibrate of its foundation because of it, but I like it. He's always brought an energy and vitality to my life. He's [...]
  • Newborn Games
    6 to 9 Months What Your Baby Likes: Seeing people he recognizes, interactive games, cause-and-effect toys. What's Behind the Smiles: By 9 months, he's beginning to understand object permanence, the [...]
  • Earth's Best has new baby food options
    Four new flavors of Stage Two/Second Foods dinner are now available from Earth's Best Organic. New flavors include the following: Beef, Carrots and Corn Country Dinner, Chicken and Brown Rice [...]
  • One Of A Kind Blanket Gift
    Are you looking for a baby gift? What about a personalized blanket? They are sweet and every parent I know loves to get them. Maybe you are liking the blanket idea but want [...]
  • Pool Safety
    In the wake of a recent tragedy, a friend of a friend just lost a baby, an 18-month-old baby who drowned in a hot tub, I think it is important that we all take a minute and read over some good tips [...]
  • The New Yorker , Start Spreadin The News
    “The New Yorker may think, as one of their staff explained to us, that their cover is a satirical lampoon of the caricature Senator Obama’s right wing critics have tried to create. But [...]
  • What do you feed your baby?
    We had some friends over for dinner last night and I was busy running around grilling steak and pork chops and pouring my pasta salads into serving platters and setting the table that I asked my [...]
  • Potty Mouth
    We have a good case of potty mouth at our house lately. One day this week, Peanut and I were having lunch at a restaurant with her father. He was teasing her and wouldn't give her her fortune [...]
  • Kids and Car Safety
    As a parent I have forgotten to go somewhere with my child I was scheduled to be at, forgotten to feed them before i put them in a car for over an hour and forgotten many things in the diaper bag. [...]

Hot Off The Press

  • So who's going?
    As we leave tonight's show, Brian was blindsided and is on the block against Renny, as the house decides he played too hard, too fast - which he totally did. What I love about it is that he's totally [...]
  • Fast Food Funnies
    Today’s theme is about one of the world’s sickest obsessions – fast food.  We have become a lazy society who lives on whatever we can muster from the drive thru window on the way to or [...]
  • Today's Astrology: The Wish for A Mr. Clean Magic Eraser
    July 16, 2008 You’ve seen those Mr. Clean Magic Erasers, the micro-sanders that demolish just about any type of stubborn mess on the wall or an appliance, haven’t you? Today nearly all of us [...]
  • The View July 16th
    Today's recap will not be up anytime soon. (I have gotten more realistic. I used to say it would be up later, but really, who am I kidding?). On today's show: Seth Green will be on to promote [...]
  • Envy
    Envy doesn't get me anywhere. I am surrounded by so many talented people at this summerstock and I just want to watch everyone in awe. They are so talented that I have to ignore my mean, inner [...]
  • Rescue Me Mini-Episode, News, Etc.
    And we finally got a sentimental, or at least quasi-sentimental Rescue Me minisode last night. As the firehouse used its final moments to banter about surefire hall of famers and the likelihood they [...]
  • Craig Robinson Feature on Digital Journal
    While The Office is on hiatus, Craig Robinson, who plays Darryl on the show, will be seen performing at the Just for Laughs Festival in Montreal (July 18th) and Toronto (July 26). He has been [...]
  • If I had a Million Dollars I'd buy a shit-ton of Coke
    Barenaked Ladies singer, Steven J. Page, was arrested in central New York on Friday and was charged with fourth degree criminal possession of a controlled substance, that substance being tasty, tasty [...]
  • Making the Pyrovile
    This week I went in search of videos as shown on the Official BBC Doctor Who site in conjunction with . You know, the ones that you can't see from outside of the UK, and sometimes from within the UK [...]
  • The Birth of Religion - Part 7
    by Seeker SO just what is it that started us on the spiritual path as a race? Graham Hancock started as an investigative journalist and has a string of books behind him that have a common thread [...]